Looking back on over 25 years as an attorney representing children and their parents in difficult cases, I have tried to identify the major lessons I have learned. In many of life’s circumstances, we learn from our own mistakes and from de-briefing the hard cases. One thing I see in the best advocates is the ability to stay focused on solving a problem while maintaining the highest level of professionalism.
Many of our clients are under heavy stress. By the time they are talking to us, they often feel that they are at the end of the rope and are caught in a difficult and highly adversarial confrontation. We owe it to them to listen carefully and to be sensitive to the battles already fought. We also need to offer our clients an objective assessment of the case and guidance to achieve real and sustainable changes. I have seen too many lawyers who believe that their job is to be the extension of their client’s anger. This approach can do real damage in child related cases.
Times are hard for obtaining services for families and children who need help. We need the best advocacy we can get. As lawyers and child advocates, let’s help each other to be prepared, to be right, and to get the job done with professionalism.